I attended a “pity party” a couple of weeks ago that I was both hostess and guest at – it was my very own private party and it was lousy. I was having one of those days when I was feeling sorry for myself and was flooded with thoughts of failure and disappointment about most everything. Did not matter what it was – I was feeling like I was ready to give up and throw in the towel. My prospect of success was the equivalent of “when pigs fly”……
I hope I am not the only one that has days like this. Somebody please tell me that you do also. I would love to think I am a normal sort of gal. I spent several hours with my hands on my hips and a snarl on my lips before I realized that I was not having fun at the soiree and had to find a way to snap myself out of it. My first attempt at leaving the party was to text a friend and say “got any peanut butter?” She knows me well enough to allow access to peanut butter whenever it is needed so it was just minutes before I was scooping a large tablespoon out of her jar. In fact – I had two. I would have stayed a bit to talk with her but it was the weekend and her husband was on the sofa so I vamoosed after the delicious fix and headed back to my home. What to do what to do – the party was still going on in my head although the refreshments had been oh so fine…..
My other fail-safe tactic for breaking my mood is to make a necklace so I rummaged through my collection of pendants and inspiration came in the form of this flying pig that had been buried deep within the basket – it was a forgotten piece and when I found it I knew it was a much needed decoration for my spirit. It would be symbolic of “staying the course” and this pig would help me. I grabbed some pearls and found the accent beads that were calling and was quickly knotting a necklace that made me smile as it evolved. It was to be for me – I would make pigs fly if only around my neck and a positive attitude was all that I needed to acquire to ensure success of everything that I was convinced was wrong. As I knotted each pearl on my way to the end of the necklace I counted my blessings and found myself smiling…a photo was snapped and popped up on FB and the necklace sold! Encouragement! The guest that had been absent for a couple of weeks had arrived. It was encouragement that I welcomed as my guest. Any number of things might have ended the pity party but the universe sent me encouragement to entertain and I focused on it and the infinite possibilities of my future. My friend Kathryn purchased the necklace when she saw the photo on FB. She is a source of continued encouragement for me…I am thankful for her.
But the next morning brought me a gift in the form of an email. More encouragement…..here are some excerpts:
“Dear Lettie -
I am the individual that has purchased three of your creations. One of them being the “Ava Maria” purchased today. I have a wonderful admiration for your work, and would have loved to add other treasures to my collection once I saw them all in person. I feel a very close spiritual connection with the “Ava Maria” and wanted to share my feelings with you. I follow your blog, and the recent one about the compass truly had me nodding my head in agreement. My needle is out of control, and I don’t know what I need to do.
As a child, I was never held or loved. There was much negativity with physical and verbal abuse toward me and my parents towards each other. I had a friend that was Catholic that gave me a plastic rosary when I was in kindergarten. She said that Mother Mary would protect her children and to always remember that. I would pray and pray that the yelling and screaming would stop when I was in my bedroom as a young girl, and prayed each time that we wouldn’t have to go to the ER that night. I would always hold my cross and say a special prayer.”
Her name is Brooke – she then proceeded to tell me some information about herself and her health – I so totally related to these tidbits of her life as they were somewhat akin to mine. Here is the rest of her email…
“I made God a promise that I would not be like my parents, and I swore to myself that I would not break my promise to God. With that being said, I have a void when it comes to my own parents and to the lack of love from them. I have been looking at the “Ava Maria” for almost 4 months, and finally had the opportunity to look at it in person as well as have the opportunity to meet you! I went to Cafe Jonah with the attitude that I wasn’t going to purchase anything, but when I put the necklace on, I truly felt God’s presence and in my own special way, felt my void filled with “her” love.
Thank you for the wonderful gift and the most precious piece that I will ever own. I would love to meet with you one day and perhaps hear some of your thoughts about things that interest us both. Again, this has been an amazing experience and such an awesome thing that has happened in my life. I never knew that a person could “feel” a connection with a piece of art, but I have found out what that means.”
This kind of encouragement cannot be measured. I wrote her and told her the significance of her email and received permission to use parts of it in this blog. She knows that her email arrived at a time when I needed it and wrote me again to say how glad she was to have written it. I have read her original email many, many times since receiving it. It has become one of those moments that counts as “my happy place”. I recall her kind words and I am happy….it is so simple. Encouragement was all that was needed to turn my boat around. My attitude has been positive and sales have picked up. No pity parties are allowed on my calendar now. Encouragement. What a powerful gift that we can give others. Brooke and Kathryn sent me encouragement and together we made a pig fly! The universe is amazing. It sends us what we need just when we need it as long as we remain positive and open….how cool is that!